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The four agreements(Don Miguel) With my coaching hat on, shared here are some of the key things I've learned that have contributed profoundly to my quality of life, my peace of mind and my understanding this journey we are on through this thing called life. I am full of gratitude to all who played a part over the last 30 years in bringing this awareness to me, that has also flowed on into support and guidance for my coaching clients. Here I have outlined a few of these key things, in no particular order, and when I have more time I will embellish these and add more. I trust you will find some inspiration here... The Holy Grail is inside you!
People often search outside themselves for answers, not realising that all the wisdom and all the resources they need are inside them, and that the journey needs to be inwards to re-discover these and more easily access and utilise them. Wise teachers, mentors and counsellors know that their role is to help you to journey inward and come up with your own answers. my top tips
Freedom It's not such a common thing. Most people miss the moment, and instead react unconsciously with their own habitual, conditioned mind set. This keeps them trapped in old ways, keeps them in a prison of the past. Innumerable times a day we have the opportunity to be in prison, or in freedom. Be on the look out for those fleeting moments. The more you see them, the more easily and often you will be able to see them, and embrace the opportunity - the freedom - to choose something other than auto-pilot. Deconstructing beliefs We have a barrow load of (mostly unconscious) beliefs that limit us and create obstacles to our peace of mind and achieving what we want. Any time you feel stress, know there is flawed thinking born of limiting beliefs. One of the most pivotal things you can do to enhance peace of mind, well being and improve the results you get in life is to discover what your limiting beliefs are and clear them. The most simple, profound and stunningly effective way to do this is 'The Work' (of Byron Katie). You can check out 'The Inquiry' (the process to deconstruct beliefs) on Katie's website, and on Rosie's website (Australian-based practitioner and workshop facilitator of 'The Work'). Of all the growth I have done over 25 years, all the wonderful tools and techniques, all the wonderful teachers and mentors, 'The Work' is the most simple and effective. You can apply the process to yourself and get some results, but I have generally found it best to be facilitated.
Another critically important aspect of Byron Katie's work is 'loving what is'. It is our resistance to what is that causes so much of our suffering. And to round it off, she teaches a great stress buster with a question - 'whose business are you in?' When you're in someone else's business, not only is it stressful, but you're not home in yourself. Katie offers some beautiful wisdom about these on her website and in her books and workshops. To be added soon...
Flow The best question you could ask in any circumstances... 'What would love do now?' (Neale Donald-Walsh, Conversations with God) Angel and Devil (divine wisdom/higher self vs conditioning)
Parts conflict/adaptation to the loss of love
Ike (Awareness) The world is what you think it is (represented by white)
The seven principles of Huna (Polynesian Spiritual philosophy)
LIVE your life! (Some people are dead 40 years before they get put into the ground!) You are not your thinking! Most people identify with their thinking, and make the mistaken assumption that that is who they are. The reality is that 'you' are having the experience of thinking. If you keep an awareness that it is separate from 'you', it will have far less capacity to impact negatively on your life. As an experiment, I invite you to observe your thoughts as if they are separate from you (as, indeed, they are) and notice the difference in your experience. Personal responsibility It is very common for people to give their power away, or to offload responsibility onto other people or situations. The minute you start blaming someone or something, or making excuses, you are avoiding personal responsibility. In one of Robert Kyosaki's books there is a very powerful reality check about excuses - it states that excuses are the lies you tell yourself and that they are coming from the loser in you. It's pretty 'in your face' but it's so true. It's the sort of thing I write up as a notice and stick on the mirror as a reminder. That in itself is a powerful exercise that can create substantial change. Personal responsibility is something that can transform your life, because it takes you out of disempowered, victim space, and puts you back in the driver's seat, where you belong. In any situation you can ask yourself questions like, 'what am I doing or not doing to contribute to this situation?' and 'how might my attitude and behaviour be influencing the outcome? There is plenty more to this, but this is a great start. |