As life presents us with the opportunity to make choices, we can make those choices consciously or unconsciously; we can make choices out of fear, or out of love.

Even with an awareness of the fact that our choices are most often made out of fear and based on flawed thinking and unconscious belief patterns, and even when I am alert to this, I still find myself at times stalled at the cross roads when there's an important choice to be made.

That's where I found myself at the beginnng of this year with something that was a big deal for me. I can make a list of the pros and cons. I can rest with one perspective and convince myself it's the way to go, then flip to the other and equally convince myself it's the way to go. I can see it in multiple different ways, and the vascillating is both confusing and frustrating.

I have no doubt we all find ourselves in this place on occasion.

What I have learned is that trying to work it out is stressful. I have also learned that trying to work it out is a thought process that relies heavily on the past (perceptions of experience) and the future (imagination, guesswork on a myriad of possible outcomes).

More and more I am finding the approach that is kindest to me is to let go of it, surrender, and stay in flow and in the present moment as much as possible. When I do this I find that, by not trying to work it out, by getting out of my own way, things generally resolve themselves quite well (...providing I'm not using that as an avoidance tactic!)

I've also discovered that when I find myself doing something without having thought about it prior, it's the best course of action. If I'm churning it over in my head, 'will I, won't I', then I know that any action I take won't serve my best interests.

So, as I mused over this, I reminded myself to stop, breathe, be still, and let it unfold in its own good time. I trust this is something useful for you to contemplate also, or perhaps you would not be reading this :o)

maia's musings